• As a spouse or partner, let them know that they are still beautiful. I had a friend who told me bald is beautiful and then kissed my bald head! I felt truly at home and loved.

• Don’t forget to take care of yourself. If you’re wiped out it doesn’t help your friend or family member. And accept help when offered- people really do want to help.

• Even though you want to do everything for them, let them keep their independence and sense of self and let them do things for themselves as well.

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